bootcamp...house arrest...parole...just confused!

[jess.friede4]

Forgive me guys...i'm totally in a down and out mood right now. My l/o might possibly get boot camp.  Im not sure right now. He's in stateville r&c.  I was a co defendant in his case. I got probation...and our felonies were class 1. Anyway...we were supposed to get married a few weeks after we got arrested at the court house.  Of course plans were canceled due to the arrests. So, I already know that i probably wont be able to see him at bootcamp since im not an immediate family member. What about when he's on house arrest afterwards?  Is there something to where a felon cannot go see someone on house arrest?  And when he completes house arrest, does he have parole or something to complete then?  Im just really sad because we were suppose to start our lives together, and now i feel like all this is holding me back from him.  I have a five year old as well who misses him.  (He has a different father.) This is all really depressing me...

[Marks_guy]

Hang in there, hun. It's a hard road to walk, but know you are not in this alone. By joining IPT, you became a part of a knowledgeable and caring family. Just about any time of the day or night, someone is around.

You are right about visiting at boot camp. Since you aren't his wife or an immediate family member, you won't be able to go. As to if you can visit after he gets out, it depends on the conditions of his release. It is possible, since you were co-defendants, that a no contact order could be issued.

[jess.friede4]

Thats what im afraid of.  I have some of my friends telling me that theres always a way around it...but i dont want to risk him going to prison just by seeing me.  That might even violate my probation.  I dont know...this is so depressing.  Here i thought we were just beginning our lives together...and now...i dont even know if that will ever happen....

[veracity]

Thats what im afraid of.  I have some of my friends telling me that theres always a way around it...but i dont want to risk him going to prison just by seeing me.  That might even violate my probation.  I dont know...this is so depressing.  Here i thought we were just beginning our lives together...and now...i dont even know if that will ever happen....

It will happen but only if you both jump through the hoops and follow their rules long enough to get out of the system. Don't listen to bogus people telling you there are ways around it cause there aren't. You must do everything they require so that someday you can be together again. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Stay focused on the day you will be together again and get through one day at a time. Do good and he flies through boot camp quickly, do good and he'll get off parole sooner. Mess up and it'll never end.

[acacia91]

in some prisons you can get married. do they do that at the bootcamps?

[Angela]

Absolutely NOT!        You can't even visit unless you are immediate Family. Sorry, but there's always after BC. .......